Allowances Made…

Sep 27, 2010 | All About Learning, All About Molly, Crap

But really, wouldn’t you make allowances for this face?

I met with Riley’s teacher last week.  A pre-IEP/pre-parent-teacher-conference meeting. A “she’s beating the crap out of her sister, how is she behaving in school” type of meeting.

Her behavior scale is different than the other students – she has been granted more leeway.

But she hides under the desk. She doesn’t talk. The class has had their seats moved several times already this year – Riley has remained stationary. She plays alone. She shuts down if things don’t go perfectly. She has one friend.

One friend is better than none.

The other kids try, from what I’m told.  Riley just isn’t sociable.

One of the biggest problems at the moment is that it’s mid-terms.  The teacher is required to test every student the same. Riley does not respond to the testing the way it is.  Without an IEP there isn’t a thing the teacher can do to accommodate her needs.  We can’t get an IEP until the testing is done.  Rock. Hardplace. Us.  Suckville.

We are learning from our (vast) mistakes.  But not fast enough to spare some pain.

The teacher is worried sick about what will happen during a fire/tornado drill.

I’m worried sick about how this all is affecting her.  Affecting us. Our meeting with special services will not be until November. Our hands are tied until then.

I thought we were done with the “hurry up and wait”.

It will never end.

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*Apologizing for negative nature of post. Feeling negative/stressed. It’s carrying over.*

Sarah

4 Comments

  1. Vanessa

    Ugh…try and hang in there. I know these kinds of things just suck. There’s no way around it. My daughter has SPD and I remember the same kind of meetings with school LOTS of hurry up and wait, like you said. Good luck to you and your fam. But yeah, I’d totally make allowances for that face. What a little cutie!

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    • Sarah

      @Vanessa,

      Thanks for visiting this blog, Vanessa 🙂 It’s nice to see you over here too 😀

      And yes, it does suck. It’s stupid how slow they were to respond in the first place and now her whole 1st trimester will pass before we can get this IEP in place so her “grades” (what grades they give in Kindergarten) are not going to be based on what she truly knows, but what she can express-which is minimal at best.

      *G* Thanks. I think she’s a cutie, too. She’s a total princes…her sister’s the tomboy.

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  2. Jac

    I realize I’m late to your blog, so I’m trying to catch up and become acquainted with your situation.

    I’m shocked (although I probably shouldn’t be) at the fact that you are waiting until November for these meetings. NOVEMBER?!!?

    Hurry up and wait is never a good thing. But especially in this case, how frustrating is this!??

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  3. Rachael

    Don’t apologize! It’s just life. And sometimes, it’s hard. I hope that you get her what she needs soon. In reading blogs, I have come across so many little ones who are not getting what they need from the education system, and it’s so sad.

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