I Am Grateful…

So much has happened, yet so little. There’s much to be grateful for, both big and little…

I am grateful…

Our Christmas tree is down and put away.

Molly is going out with friends to ball games.

Erik got a call from a company in Florida after sending a mere THREE resumes.

For friends that always have my back.

That we are in a good enough place that we could send a little help to a furloughed family I know.

For the light in the darkness – the outpouring of love and support that shines out through the hate in the world right now.

That I’ve written words again.

For the world of blogging that has reappeared in my life.

That this cold is finally passing me by so I can workout again.

That we are free of the burden of the old car finally (thanks, oldest child for taking care of it.)

That I…I am now the parent of a full-fledged adult. Denver is now 21 years old. (Gratitude and feeling very old)

For overtime and pretty paychecks.

For creativity.

For a husband that supports me even when I think maybe I’ve gone off the deep end sometimes.

For anti-depressants.

For every single sunrise.

Oola: How I found it, and what it is

I’ve been carrying on for a while now about this Oola stuff, I know. So, I thought I would share a little about how I came to find it, what it is, and what it means to me/us.

One day about a year and a half ago I was perusing netgalley (as I love to do) and saw the cover over there <—.

I was intrigued, but saw it was self-help/non-fic and thought maybe it was too crunchy crazy for me because of the VW bus on the cover and moved on past.

About a month later one of my local friends on twitter posted something with the hashtag #oola.  For some reason, the word had stuck with me from that cover and I immediately tackled her on it, asking what she knew of it.  Her response is lost to the twitter gods…but it was along the lines of “It’s amazing.” I said I remembered seeing an oola book on Netgalley and I’d go see if it was still available.

It WAS!  I snatched it up immediately – and then promptly forgot about it for probably five or six months.

One weekend after I’d quit the job I hated, I took a chance to run some surveys at a local movie theater. I was only to survey people coming out of a couple of particular movies. Not sure if you know this, but movie theaters run movies in chunks. So everything goes in and releases within a half hour span every couple of hours. That left a LOT of time sitting around staring at this –>.

While sitting on a bench during one of the lulls, I opened the kindle app on my phone, pondering what to read.

I’m not sure what called me to it, but as soon as I saw Oola, I downloaded and began to read.

Within an hour I was sending my husband screen captures saying “Read this! And this! and this! This is amazing!”

Whether it was the right timing, or the right words, the book spoke to me. Some of the stories didn’t speak to me, but many left me in tears. It inspired me, uplifted me, and made me look at EVERYTHING in my life differently.  It changed my life.

I know, I know…I’m using the words “It was LIFE-CHANGING.”  The thing is…I don’t say this lightly. I’ve read my share of self-help books that didn’t do anything for me. Again. I don’t know if it was the timing, the words, or the simple complexity of the whole theory…but it struck me. It didn’t hit my husband in the same way…at first.  Now? He’s fully on board. We’ve both read an Oola book (There are currently 2 versions with a 3rd to be released soon and a 4th planned) at least twice. I’m on my third go right now.

Okay, so what is it?

From the Oola website:

oo-la (noun): That state of awesomeness. It is when your life is balanced and growing in the seven key areas of life – the 7 F’s of Oola (fitness, finance, family, field (career), faith, friends and fun).

It’s a book that guides you on how to find balance in the 7 key areas of your life.  (Heads up, the authors are deeply Christian and as someone who isn’t this could have easily turned me off…but in the Faith section they admit they’re Christian and say “but you do you.” Which, for me, made them a-ok in my book).

The book leads you through every one of the key areas, talking about how you can attain Oola in each, or what it means to attain Oola in each.

They break down what are called “Oola blockers” – like Fear, Guilt, Anger, etc. Then, they talk about my favorite – the “Oola accelerators” like Gratitude, Love, and Passion.

You are given quizzes to see where you are in each area so that you might create your Oola Wheel and see what you need to work on. You’re also given steps to find three daily tasks that take you closer to your Oola goals. By working on one area of your life, the Oola spreads to other areas so you see a general lift in each area.  I’ve experienced it, I’ve seen it have a huge impact on our lives. It sounds hokey, but it works.

I met the Oola guys

In June I got to head to a local Barnes & Noble to get my Oola books signed by the authors.

I even got to put my own Oola goal on the Dream bus…on the layer of stickers covering the VW. (My dream is not in this picture…it must have been before I placed it…but it was to move to Florida – weeks before we made the decision to do just that).

I kid you not, I was like a kid at Disney World when I walked around the corner and saw that bus outside. It was real, and I was adding MY dream to the bus.

I know I keep saying it, but it’s made a big change in our lives.  We keep each other in check by reminding each other “Oola” when things get rough. We have open discussion about Oola Blockers and Accelerators. We’ve taken steps to better our lives using the principles and are seeing positive changes.

We stumble, sure. Of course we do.  Lately, my biggest struggle has been in the fitness aspect and it’s bringing me down everywhere. So, I’ve quit smoking finally (over 2 months now), and I’ve gotten back on a healthier diet, I’ve been working on quitting pop, and am doing exercise program that worked for me in the past. My goals don’t involve a number on a scale, but a general return to the healthy level and excellent shape I was in almost 2 years ago.

We are living the #oolalife as best we can – and knocking out our Oola goals as we can.

I know, I’m one of THOSE people…never thought I would be, but I SO am.

Come on in, the water’s GREAT.

 

Books I Recommend – One, One, and One

I thought about doing one book per recommendation post – but then changed my mind.

I’m going to recommend One, one, and one every month.  The genres may change, but it lends some variety.

This week we’re going to look at One Poetry/YA, One Non-fiction, and One Graphic Novel.

All of these I read in my year of big reading, 2017, and they still stick out to me as books I’d recommend.

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[easyazon_link identifier=”0062118765″ locale=”US” tag=”redefiperfec-20″]One by Sarah Crossan[/easyazon_link]

This is a young adult book, but it’s so wonderfully unique. A story told through poetry that captures your heart with it’s lyrical words and deeply real characters even in their almost surreal existence.

Grace and Tippi are conjoined twins who have lived their whole lives as one. Now sixteen years old, they’ve defied odds and formed a bond like no other.

A health scare makes them make the most difficult choice of their lives…and it will change everything.

I was in tears at the end of this one.

I read it because I had a challenge to read a book of poetry – and I’m so glad I did. This was a beautiful story and I’d recommend it to anyone.

 

[easyazon_link identifier=”1594634726″ locale=”US” tag=”redefiperfec-20″]Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert[/easyazon_link]

Yes, this is written by the lady that wrote Eat, Pray, Love.

Once again, I started reading this because of those challenges I set for myself in 2017 to read things outside of my comfort zone…including Non-fiction, which I’d always tried, and failed, to read.

This had also been plastered all over my social media feed read with glowing reviews. Once I started reading, I found out why.

This book spoke to me deeply on many layers. I’d had a rough year in 2016 that left me not writing at all.  Years of being in the industry left me with big doubts and second-guessing myself with every word I wrote.

This frank exploration of the fears we face in any creative endeavor shook loose many of my cobwebs and helped get me writing again. I’m about to re-read it because I feel the need for another push.

I recommend it to anyone that wants to live creatively (and I don’t mean with the arts…I mean with LIFE)

 

[easyazon_link identifier=”1442465964″ locale=”US” tag=”redefiperfec-20″]Through the Woods by Emily Carroll[/easyazon_link]

This is a spine-tinglingly fun graphic novel that tells five different creepy fairy-tale sort of stories.

The artwork makes bold plays between stark black/white then great swaths of color to achieve emotional impact.

This was one of my first graphic novels, and the creepy tales were right up my alley, without being too horrifying.

It’s a fun little read that gives you some feel for the way fairy tales were before we softened them up.

 

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Those are my recommendations for this month!  Hope you enjoyed.

What are some of your favorite books?  I love adding to my TBR.

 

My Spirit Animal is Weirder than Yours

Last month I participated in this wonderful event run by an Ojibwe Medicine Woman called the 21 Day Ceremony Challenge.

The whole thing was amazing, powerful, so intense.  I learned things about myself. I built up my altar with new items and offerings. It was a wonderful way to spent a few minutes every day focusing on myself.

One day, pretty early in the process, she sent us on a little guided meditation to find the spirit animal that would be guiding us on our journey.

Honestly, it took me several tries to get in the right frame of mind to truly get into it. I expected something like the fox or deer I’d recently seen.

Nope.

My spirit guide came plodding along on all fours. Green. Bumpy. Big teeth.

An alligator.

Honestly…I had to really take a few minutes to digest it. I’ve seen all sorts of spirit animals from spiders to horses to hawks and even mice.

But an alligator? What?

Then, I thought more about it – and it makes total sense.

For one, the obvious, we are planning to move to Florida. What’s crazy-prevalent in Florida? Alligators, of course.

Then there’s the fact that my middle one, Molly, has had the nickname of “Gator” since she was a baby.  It’s a cute story about a onesie and an enamored daddy…but we’ll save that for another time.

Once I sat with the knowledge for a while, I took in the lessons he brought me.

His message to me was to work hard at being my authentic self, which I have always struggled with. The rest will fall into place if I continue accepting and becoming my true self. His presence with me tells me to continue my path of sticking to my guns and know that even though I’m gifted with emotional understanding, I don’t have to allow myself to be dragged into the chaos and mire of others drama.

So I’m happy to walk with the alligator, and let him be my guide…

And proudly say that I’d bet anything my spirit animal is weirder than yours. Which is just how I like it.

Revisiting the Bucket List – My 50X50

Well, I haven’t taken a hard look at my 50X50 status since 2017…so I knew that it was time to remedy that.  I need to change some things, add in some completed items and well, just tidy that thing all the way up. It’s been neglected far too long.

So join me, won’t you?  Let’s see what awesomeness we have done, or I’m changing, or what is staying the same level of awesomeness.

Color Code:

Newly Done (past 2 years)
Previously Done
New
Updated

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50 X 50

  1. Take a real vacation. (Not to Buffalo, not w/ the kids) (Done 4/23/12)
  2. Take my kids to Disney World. (Done, thanks to Make-A-Wish 10/28/14, and again 10/28/15, and again on our own dime 12/22/2017)
  3. See my name in print (get published, e-zine, paper-zine). (Done 6/24/12 – Sirens Call June 2012 Issue)
  4. Have a novel published. (Done 2/8/13 – Changing Tracks & 17 more times [so far] by 7/18/15)
  5. Get my Dominion Falls books series in front of a producer.
  6. Complete every item on my Disney Bucket Lists (there are 3-easy, long-term, difficult).
  7. Take a photography class (or 2 or 3)
  8. Perform on stage again (done 12/4/15 – Violet Grey in A Charlie Brown Christmas)
  9. Learn to snorkel
  10. See Colorado
  11. See Yellowstone
  12. Go skydiving. [Yes, I feel slightly insane here]
  13. Go to a blogger’s conference. (done 4/23/12)
  14. Sit at a book signing. (Done March 2018 at a conference in Nashville!)
  15. Get on a regular exercise regime & stay on it for more than 3 months. (I did this in 2018, then fell off the wagon at peak of fitness. My goal is to achieve again in 2019 and stick with it)
  16. Hand craft (knit, sew) 1 item for ME for a change. (DONE 4/1/12)
  17. Watch the baby turtles hatching
  18. Get some crazy color in my hair (purple, blue, pink highlites/streaks) Done 2/11/12
  19. Read the Harry Potter series aloud to my girls. (2/3 of the way through by 8/4/17)
  20. Sing Karaoke (Done April 2018 – much to my embarrassment.)
  21. Get up close with the wolves & photograph them at Wolf Park. (odds of getting this done before I leave Indiana – now nil. Hoping there’s something similar in FL)
  22. Move to Florida.
  23. Pay off debt. (Making progress on this for the first time ever. Maybe it will get done!)
  24. Get a car that is less than 2 years old (Done March 2018 –  my 2017 Honda Accord Sport)
  25. Run a 5k. Done 9/22/12
  26. Do something daring (paragliding, zipline, etc.) Done 7/14/12
  27. See the butterflies at the Indy Zoo (Done 3/19/13)
  28. Learn sign language.
  29. Go on a road trip with a girlfriend (Done Sept. 2018)
  30. Go on a hot air balloon ride
  31. See Cirque du Soleil (Done 6/27/2012)
  32. Ride a horse – not a trail horse. A real ride on a horse.
  33. Volunteer (Done 12/2017 at Give Kids the World & in 2018 – Became a Make A Wish Volunteer)
  34. Stop drinking pop. (Again – sooo close in 2018. I would still have the occasional, but I was almost there and crashed. Attempting again now)
  35. Visit Disneyland (Done 5/2/17)
  36. Get a tattoo (Done 7/16/11)
  37. Go on a Cruise [preferably Alaskan, but I’m not picky]
  38. Go on a wine tasting (Done 10/16/10)
  39. Get a Henna tattoo
  40. Take my husband to swim with sharks
  41. Fly first class
  42. Read at least 50 of the PBS 100 Great American Reads. (In total I have read 26/50 at this point)
  43. Have a real spa day (Done, thanks to Hubs, 7/2014)
  44. Visit a real haunted location (Done 7/16/16)
  45. Sell a photo
  46. Visit Salem, MA
  47. Visit both US based Disney Parks in one year. (Done in 2017 – Disneyland in May, Disney World in Sept & Dec)
  48. See a solar eclipse. (Done 8/21/2017)
  49. Renew vows with a hand-fasting ceremony on the beach.
  50. Go through a sweat lodge ceremony.
  51. BONUS: Run a full Disney Marathon (I couldn’t find anything to remove, and this is a goal for me for sure)

It’s so much fun to update the list…and to learn that in the past 2 years I have crossed of EIGHT items! That’s craziness in the best of ways!!

As you can see, many of my updates have to do with our upcoming move to Florida, more geared to things I can/will do down there.  I’ve also removed a few items that hadn’t seen progress in a few years, and updated some that needed to be changed (the books site I mentioned previous was different, and the PBS list seemed more attainable).

So what’s on your bucket list?  Do you make an effort to knock out at least one a year? 

I do…and sometimes I don’t even realize I’d done more until I look at my list!

Once you start, it’s hard to stop tackling those dreams!!

Disney Tips – Don’t Overschedule

I haven’t been to Disney hundreds of times (yet. Give me a couple years), but I’ve been my fair share.

I’ve done it with crazy intensity, and in a casual jaunt.

I’ve done Disneyland (finally), and Disney World.

I’ve picked up a few tips along the way.  And while there re blogs across the web, I wanted to hand out my own Disney advice I’ve learned along the way, and tips I’ll be learning as I begin to go more frequently.

My first tip is – Don’t Overschedule.

There is a LOT to do at Disney. So much, you could go every day of the year and not get it all done.

Once more for the people in the back…

You cannot get everything done at Disney in one trip.

Seriously.

My BEST trips have been when we didn’t have a ton of stuff planned. We had vague ideas of what we wanted to see, key points we wanted to hit…but there wasn’t “THE LIST” or reservations or anything like that.

Do your research, sure.

Make A reservation (maybe 2) of places you really want to eat.  Don’t scatter your trip with reservations every day that you have to make it to by a certain time because there are so many variables like wait times and travel time and crowd levels and potty breaks. Though there’s flexibility in your arrival times…it’s still undue pressure you don’t need.

There are so many places at Disney that are counter service and don’t require a reservation and many of them are GOOD (and many also now offer mobile pickup, which we’ll cover another time because YAY).  They’re scattered along your route in the park and easy to drop in, grab and get back on the route.

This is MOST key, I think, if this is your first ever trip – ESPECIALLY on your first ever trip with your kids.

Be flexible. Be open.  On your research, take note of the restaurants in the areas you plan to be in so you don’t get a bad one (we did our first trip. We still joke about the awfulness…yes, it does happen).

OR…don’t plan.

AT.ALL.

Our first trip with the kids I had vague notes of things I really wanted us to hit, but otherwise it was a free-for-all.  The good (and bad) parts of the trip are still ALL good memories. We joke about the bad food, we joke about the painful seats on Molly’s first roller coaster (in an area we had NO designs on going in originally).  Nothing we did on that trip was planned.  It was amazeballs (and not just because of the Genie pass).

Year 2 was still great…but much more stressful because we had PLANS.  We spent 7 months researching and planning and making meal reservations (only 1 of which was worth it…and it wasn’t a character dining…and they were all $$$)…and I was so stressed about “having” to be here or there that I didn’t have as much…FUN.

I experienced the same thing when we went last year with actual passes. The first time we went, hubby and I were able to just take things casual. We spent a lot of time at our resort pool. When the power went out, we headed to the boardwalk for ice cream.  Our days in the park were cool and casual, very little ‘planned’ along the way.  Unfortunately, later that same year when I took the girls my son decided he had to schedule us fast passes for everything under the sun which led to a lot of flurry of activity that was stressful, especially in the high crowds of Christmas week.

I don’t make this tip lightly, I promise.  I come from a long line of planners. My dad loves to plan out vacations to the minute.  I was super excited for that second Disney year because Denver and I had planned so much…but the planning robs the spontaneity and fun out of Disney.

Definitely, do your research. Think hard about how long you’re going and the crowd predictions and think about your “must-do’s”. Make some general plans…what park(s) what day…what key things to hit. Make a reservation or two (I’ve got some suggestions in later posts)…sketch out days lightly, don’t set them in stone with Sharpie’s…

Because at Disney – the fun is in the spontaneous and unpredictable.

Let yourself get pulled off course – that is where the fun is.